Friday, October 19, 2012

Bapi, Ma missing u...



Bapi, Ma When Will I Ever See You Again?
I've often pondered in my heart
Why all the aches and pain?
I've often wondered since you've been gone
When will I ever see you again?

I miss you both so much
But, I guess no pain no gain,
But sometimes it gets unbearable
Tell me, when will I ever see you again?

I go through each and everyday
Imagining I see your faces,
Oh...the joy of hearing your voices
When will I ever see you again?

Each day seems null and void
Nothing refills this emptiness in my heart,
It really hurts to lose a love one
When will I ever see you again?

My Ma went with God one day
Not long after that, He took Bapi too,
Everyday is filled with nothing but rain
Please tell me, Will I ever see you again?

I know God is coming back one day
He'll move all tears and pain,
And when this happens, I'll no longer have to wonder
If I will ever see you again.

We will walk one day
Down the streets of gold,
With smiles of everlasting joy
No more sickness, no more pain
For I will be with you again.

Sunday, April 3, 2011

Song of the nation

India storms the World Cup bastion once again.The victory was full on adrenalin and feet stomping. It was so powerful and vivacious that Sri Lanka was virtually blown away by the swaying emotions of a billion heads roaring as 'one India'. 
As I saw people spilling on to the streets with their cars and bikes, with laughter and music flowing, I wondered how a simple cricket match could have brought so much change in a nation of billion which never looks beyond its individualistic approach. 
We communicated with ourselves, with each other and with virtual strangers as we saw them as fellow Indians who felt proud being a part of this priceless moment.
We were, for these 35 days, a single nation with a single need and a single vision.
Then where do we fall short for the rest of the 300 days? We fall short in having a single vision - that of well being of India. We forget that it is the power of the nation that takes care of our future and our well being. Without the nation we can only buy time but not the living.
Let's look for that communicator who can, selflessly, instil this power of vision in us that can sway the entire billion to surge and come together as the single super power the world has ever seen in this century.

Wednesday, December 1, 2010

Stephen Hawking - a living example of successful communication

Speech has allowed the communication of ideas, enabling human beings to work together to build the impossible. Mankind's greatest achievements have come about by talking, and its greatest failures by not talking. It doesn't have to be like this. Our greatest hopes could become reality in the future. With the technology at our disposal, the possibilities are unbounded. All we need to do is make sure we keep talking.

Stephen Hawking

Stephen William Hawking, CH, CBE, FRS, FRSA (born 8 January 1942) is an English theoretical physicist and cosmologist, whose scientific books and public appearances have made him an academic celebrity. He is an Honorary Fellow of the Royal Society of Arts, a lifetime member of the Pontifical Academy of Sciences,and in 2009 was awarded the Presidential Medal of Freedom, the highest civilian award in the United States.

Hawking is known for his contributions to the fields of cosmology and quantum gravity, especially in the context of black holes. He has also achieved success with works of popular science in which he discusses his own theories and cosmology in general; these include the runaway best seller A Brief History of Time, which stayed on the British Sunday Times bestsellers list for a record-breaking 237 weeks.

Hawking's key scientific works to date have included providing, with Roger Penrose, theorems regarding gravitational singularities in the framework of general relativity, and the theoretical prediction that black holes should emit radiation, which is today known as Hawking radiation (or sometimes as Bekenstein–Hawking radiation).

Hawking has a neuro-muscular dystrophy that is related to amyotrophic lateral sclerosis, a condition that has progressed over the years and has left him almost completely paralysed.

The DECtalk DTC01 voice synthesizer he uses, which has an American English accent, is no longer being produced. Asked why he has still kept it after so many years, Hawking mentioned that he has not heard a voice he likes better and that he identifies with it. Hawking is said to be looking for a replacement since, aside from being obsolete, the synthesizer is both large and fragile by current standards. As of mid 2009, he was said to be using NeoSpeech's VoiceText speech synthesizer.

In Hawking's many media appearances, he appears to speak fluently through his synthesizer, but in reality, it is a tedious drawn-out process. Hawking's setup uses a predictive text entry system, which requires only the first few characters in order to auto-complete the word, but as he is only able to use his cheek for data entry, constructing complete sentences takes time. His speeches are prepared in advance, but having a live conversation with him provides insight as to the complexity and work involved. During a Technology, Entertainment & Design Conference talk, it took him seven minutes to answer a question.

Hawking is a living example of communication beyond the realm of sound and words as we know it.

Wednesday, September 22, 2010

Why are we like this?

All eyes are on the Commonwealth Games.


Would someone please stand up and answer the following to the nation:
a)  Why is our greed for money never satiated?
b) Why, for us, does the country not come before our own wants? 
c) Why do we put those people on pedestals who are just doing their jobs and making money out of it?
d) Why don't we believe in quality?
e) Why don't we believe in unity?
f)  Why don't we work with the rural sector?
g) Why do we eulogise power?


And, most importantly, why don't we stop, stand up and ask uncomfortable questions to the government? And why doesn't the government stop, stand and answer uncomfortable questions?

Sunday, September 12, 2010

Games people play

I have been suitably impressed and influenced by Dr Eric Berne. Transactional Analysis is, indeed, an interesting concept for interactions and one could use it to one's advantage.
In Games People Play, Berne introduces Transactional Analysis and defines a game as 'an ongoing series of complementary ulterior transactions progressing to a well-defined, predictable outcome. Descriptively, it is a recurring set of transactions... with a concealed motivation...or gimmick.'
Eric Berne writes that each person is made up of three alter ego states:
Parent
Adult
Child
These terms have different definitions than in normal language.
Parent
This is our ingrained voice of authority, absorbed conditioning, learning and attitudes from when we were young. We were conditioned by our real parents, teachers, older people, next door neighbours, aunts and uncles, Our Parent is made up of a huge number of hidden and overt recorded playbacks. Typically embodied by phrases and attitudes starting with 'how to', 'under no circumstances', 'always' and 'never forget', 'don't lie, cheat, steal', etc, etc. Our parent is formed by external events and influences upon us as we grow through early childhood. We can change it, but this is easier said than done.
Child
Our internal reaction and feelings to external events form the 'Child'. This is the seeing, hearing, feeling, and emotional body of data within each of us. When anger or despair dominates reason, the Child is in control. Like our Parent we can change it, but it is no easier.
Adult
Our 'Adult' is our ability to think and determine action for ourselves, based on received data. The adult in us begins to form at around ten months old, and is the means by which we keep our Parent and Child under control. If we are to change our Parent or Child we must do so through our adult.
In other words:
Parent is our 'Taught' concept of life
Adult is our 'Thought' concept of life
Child is our 'Felt' concept of life
When we communicate we are doing so from one of our own alter ego states - Parent, Adult or Child. Our feelings at the time determine which one we use, and at any time something can trigger a shift from one state to another. When we respond, we are also doing this from one of the three states, and it is in the analysis of these stimuli and responses that the essence of Transactional Analysis lies. 
When we join the corporate world, there are times when we might feel that we are a marionette, being manipulated. In all possibility we are. In today's context, when interactions are complex, it is even more critical to understand TA. For example, a boss who talks to his staff as a controlling 'parent' will often engender self-abased obedience, tantrums, or other childlike responses from his employees, who will then be in the 'child' state.
The most effective state of interaction is if both individuals are in a one-on-one conversation and remain in an Adult ego-state. Because in this state. it is unlikely that a game is being played.

Sunday, August 1, 2010

2010 The Year of Relationships

The economic situation has impacted all of us, regardless of our job or industry. Many of us have seen dramatic layoffs, leaving some of us doing several jobs at one time. The pressure to succeed and exceed expectations is unbelievable.

In these down times, relationships become more and more important.People need to trust others, whether the person is an outside vendor or member of a cross-functional team.

When people are under the gun, they do not have the time or energy to source new relationships, unless it is absolutely necessary. However, the danger is in taking these relationships for granted. 

Are you nurturing your current relationships? Try out the following:

1. Go above and beyond. Don’t wait for others to ask for information, anticipate their needs and provide the data. For example, run projections ahead of time. Look at trends or analyze what is different. Make an  impact on their business. Don’t just be visible. Individuals will be more likely to renew or adjust plans and policies if you have been very diligent and gone beyond what is expected.  

2. Contact them, other than to ask for business. Relationships are often deepened over lunch or a game of golf. Take the time to get to know the people that you currently do business with. Share your interests. Tell them about yourself. Ask questions about their family, the weather, their vacation. Update them on anyone you know in common. Your warmth and friendliness will be noticed. Many of us may feel we are imposing or bothering people by our calls. The opposite is true. Moreover, people like to do business with those they feel they know on a more personal basis.


3. Be true to your word. Deliver on your commitments. Under promise and over-deliver. Tell the truth, not just what others want to hear. Provide a consistent, attentive level of service that makes others see you in the best possible light. 

2010 is certainly the year of relationships. As people hunker down, they look to those they know rather than to outsiders.Take the time to deepen your existing relationships and notice the benefits you will receive. 

Sunday, July 11, 2010

Employee newsletter

The cornerstone of an internal communication plan is the employee newsletter. Newsletters are vehicles of effective communication between management and employees; for employee bonding across the entire spectrum of the organisation.
Internal newsletters usually keep employees abreast of the latest developments within the company in terms of various product and services, new business policies and regulations, upcoming events, news on achievement, etc. And, of course, news and views of employees and their families, that are of interest and that help bonding as a family.
Professionally managed companies hire the expertise of reputed communication agencies to help them in bringing out effective newsletters. The agency, in a way, assists the top management in creating eloquently worded, attractively designed communication tool. Electronic newsletters are also being used nowadays as the second format.
Many-a-times a company creates its own internal newsletter, assigning the task to its human resource or marketing services department. Although this may save the company some money, but in terms of the quality of the output one can clearly see that the newsletters that have been generated by professional agencies are far superior to those that have been created internally. This is mainly because the staff associated with the exercise does not have the necessary expertise when it comes to newsletter creation.
Rich content, smooth reading flow and variety of subjects are important for the newsletter to be a success. Moreover, a printed newsletter especially that in 4 colours, ideated, developed, rewritten and created by a communications agency, is a recipe for instant success and, thereby, an effective medium of communication. Such a tool, when published consistently, over a period of time, helps strengthen the corporate image.
A poorly created newsletter fails not only as a proposition but also as a poor corporate image building tool.
In a nutshell, a business must be able to show value and quality in all its communication endeavors. And an internal newsletter is an important entity in the entire communication plan.

Sunday, June 27, 2010

Communication with a tiny tot

I had been on a business trip when I broke journey to visit my tiny nephew called Aadi. He is too small to talk or walk. But communicate he does. When he has to be fed he wails and make his presence felt. He smiles at the world when he is happy and plays when he feels secure with people who dote on him.
It made me realise that we start relating, communicating and expressing even when we do not have the words in our vocabulary and we really are not in a position to fully understand the environment.
And we, as adults, need to adjust to that human being who is expressing with movements and emotions, to connect with us.
Aadi made me think this time. And I opened a newer dimension in my communications exploration, so to speak. 

Sunday, May 30, 2010

18 lessons from a very successful American leader




Quotations from General Colin Powell: A Leadership Primer

Lesson 1

"Being responsible sometimes means pissing people off. "Good leadership involves responsibility to the
welfare of the group, which means that some people will get angry at your actions and decisions. It's
inevitable- if you're honorable. Trying to get everyone to like you is a sign of mediocrity: You'll avoid
the tough decisions, you'll avoid confronting the people who need to be confronted, and you'll avoid
offering differential rewards based on differential performance because some people might get upset.
Ironically, by procrastinating on the difficult choices, by trying not to get anyone mad, and by treating
everyone equally "nicely" regardless of their contributions, you'll simply ensure that the only people
you'll wind up angering are the most creative and productive people in the organization.

Lesson 2

"The day soldiers stop bringing you their problems is the day you have stopped leading them. They
have either lost confidence that you can help them or concluded that you do not care. Either case is a
failure of leadership." If this were a litmus test, the majority offers would fail. One, They build so
many barriers to upward communication that the very idea of someone lower in the hierarchy looking
up to the leader for help is ludicrous. Two, the corporate culture they foster often defines asking for
help as weakness or failure, so people cover up their gaps, and the organization suffers accordingly.
Real leaders make themselves accessible and available. They show concern for the efforts and
challenges faced by underlings-even as they demand high standards. Accordingly, they are more
likely to create an environment where problem analysis replaces blame.

Lesson 3

"Don't be buffaloed by experts and elites. Experts often possess more data than judgment. Elites can
become so inbred that they produce hemophiliacs who bleed to death as soon as they are nicked by the real world." Small companies and startups don't have the time for analytically detached experts. They don't have the money to subsidize lofty elites, either. The president answers the phone and drives the truck when necessary; everyone on the payroll visibly produces and contributes to bottom-line results or they're history. But as companies get bigger, they often forget who "bring them to the dance":
things like all-hands involvement, egalitarianism, informality, market intimacy, daring, risk, speed,
agility. Policies that emanate from ivory towers often have an adverse impact on the people out in the
field who are fighting the wars or bringing in the revenues. Real leaders are vigilant-and combative in
the face of these trends.

Lesson 4

"Don't be afraid to challenge the pros, even in their own backyard." Learn from the pros, observe
them, seek them out as mentors and partners. But remember that even the pros may have leveled out
in terms of their learning and skills. Sometimes even the pros can become complacent and lazy.
Leadership does not emerge from blind obedience to anyone. Xerox's Barry Rand was right on target
when he warned his people that if you have a yes-man working for you, one of you is redundant. Good
leadership encourages everyone's evolution.

Lesson 5

"Never neglect details. When everyone's mind is dulled or distracted the leader must be doubly
vigilant." Strategy equals execution. All the great ideas and visions in the world are worthless if they
can't be implemented rapidly and efficiently. Good leaders delegate and empower others liberally, but
they pay attention to details, every day. (Think about supreme athletic coaches like Jimmy Johnson,
Pat Riley and Tony La Russa). Bad ones-even those who fancy themselves as progressive visionaries think they're somehow "above"operational details. Paradoxically, good leaders understand something
else: An obsessive routine in carrying out the details begets conformity and complacency, which in
turn dulls everyone's mind. That is why even as they pay attention to details, they continually
encourage people to challenge the process. They implicitly understand the sentiment of CEO - leaders
like Quad Graphic's Harry Quadracchi, Oticon's Lars Kolind and the late Bill McGowan of Mel, who
all independently asserted that the job of a leader is not to be the chief organizer, but the chief
disorganizer.

Lesson 6

"You don't know what you can get away with until you try." You know the expression "it's easier to get
forgiveness than permission?" Well, it's true. Good leaders don't wait for official blessing to try things
out. They're prudent, not reckless. But they also realize a fact of life in most organizations: If you ask
enough people for permission, you'll inevitably come up against someone who believes his job is to say
"no."So the moral is, don't ask. I'm serious. In my own research with colleague Linda Mukai, we found
that less effective middle managers endorsed the sentiment, "If I haven't explicitly been told 'yes,' I
can't do it," whereas the good ones believed "If I haven't explicitly been told 'no,' I can." There's a world of difference between these two points of view.

Lesson 7

"Keep looking below surface appearances. Don't shrink from doing so Gust) because you might not like
what you find." "If it ain't broke, don't fix it" is the slogan of the complacent, the arrogant or the
scared. It's an excuse for inaction, a call to non-arms. It's a mind-set that assumes (or hopes) that
today's realities will continue tomorrow in a tidy, linear and predictable fashion. Pure fantasy. In this
sort of culture, you won't find people who proactively take steps to solve problems as they emerge.
Here's a little tip: Don't invest in these companies.

Lesson 8

"Organization doesn't really accomplish anything. Plans don't accomplish anything, either. Theories of
management don't much matter. Endeavors succeed or fail because of the people involved. Only by
attracting the best people will you accomplish great deeds." In a brain-based economy,your best
assets are people. We've heard this expression so often that it's become trite. But how many leaders
really "walk the talk" with this stuff? Too often, people are assumed to be empty chess pieces to be
moved around by grand viziers, which may explain why so many top managers immerse their
calendar time in deal making, restructuring and the latest management fad. How many immerse
themselves in the goal of creating an environment where the best, the brightest, the most creative are
attracted, retained and-most importantly-unleashed?

Lesson 9

"Organization charts and fancy titles count for next to nothing." Organization charts are frozen,
anachronistic photos in a workplace that ought to be as dynamic as the external environment around
you. If people really followed organization charts, companies would collapse. In well-run
organizations, titles are also pretty meaningless. At best, they advertise some authority-an official
status conferring the ability to give orders and induce obedience. But titles mean little in terms of real
power, which is the capacity to influence and inspire. Have you ever noticed that people will
personally commit to certain individuals who on paper (or on the org chart) possess little authority but
instead possess pizzazz, drive, expertise and genuine caring for teammates and products? On the
flip side, nonleaders in management may be formally anointed with all the perks and frills associated
with high positions, but they have little influence on others, apart from their ability to extract minimal
compliance to minimal standards.

Lesson 10

"Never let your ego get so close to your position that when your position goes, your ego goes with it."
Too often, change is stifled by people who cling to familiar turfs and job descriptions. One reason that
even large organizations wither is that managers won't challenge old, comfortable ways of doing
things. But real leaders understand that, nowadays, every one of our jobs is becoming obsolete. The
proper response is to obsolete our activities before someone else does. Effective leaders create a climate where people's worth is determined by their willingness to learn new skills and grab new
responsibilities, thus perpetually reinventing their jobs. The most important question in performance
evaluation becomes not, "How well did you perform your job since the last time we met?" but, "How
much did you change it?"

Lesson 11

''Fit no stereotypes. Don't chase the latest management fads. The situation dictates which approach
best accomplishes the team's mission." Flitting from fad to fad creates team confusion, reduces the
leader's credibility and drains organizational coffers. Blindly following a particular fad generates
rigidity in thought and action. Sometimes speed to market is more important than total quality.
Sometimes an unapologetic directive is more appropriate than participatory discussion. To quote
Powell, some situations require the leader to hover closely; others require long, loose leashes. Leaders
honor their core values, but they are flexible in how they execute them. They understand that
management techniques are not magic mantras but simply tools to be reached for at the right times.

Lesson 12

"Perpetual optimism is a force multiplier." The ripple effect of a leader's enthusiasm and optimism is
awesome. So is the impact of cynicism and pessimism. Leaders who whine and blame engender those
same behaviors among their colleagues. I am not talking about stoically accepting organizational
stupidity and performance incompetence with a "what, me worry?" smile. I am talking about a gung ho
attitude that says "we can change things here, we can achieve awesome goals, we can be the best."
Spare me the grim litany of the "realist"; give me the unrealistic aspirations of the optimist any day.

Lesson 13

" 'Powell's Rules for Picking People.' Look for intelligence and judgment and , most critically, a capacity to anticipate, to see around corners. Also look for loyalty, integrity, a high energy drive, a balanced ego and the drive to get things done." How often do our recruitment and hiring processes tap into these attributes? More often than not, we ignore them in favor of length of resume, degrees and prior titles.

A string of job descriptions a recruit held yesterday seem to be more important than who one is today,
what she can contribute tomorrow or how well his values mesh with those of the organization. You can
train a bright, willing novice in the fundamentals of your business fairly readily, but it's a lot harder
to train someone to have integrity, judgment, energy, balance and the drive to get things done. Good
leaders stack the deck in their favor right in the recruitment phase.

Lesson 14

(Borrowed by Powell from Michael Korda): "Great leaders are almost always great simplifiers, who can
cut through argument, debate and doubt, to offer a solution everybody can understand." Effective
leaders understand the KISS principle, or Keep It Simple, Stupid. They articulate vivid, overarching
goals and values, which they use to drive daily behaviors and choices among competing alternatives.
Their visions and priorities are lean and compelling, not cluttered and buzzword-laden. Their
decisions are crisp and clear, not tentative and ambiguous. They convey an unwavering firmness and
consistency in their actions, aligned with the picture of the future they paint. The result? Clarity of
purpose, credibility of leadership, and integrity in organization.

Lesson 15

Part I: "Use the formula P@ to 70, in which P stands for the probability of success and the numbers
indicate the percentage of information acquired." Part IT: "Once the information is in the 40 to 70
range, go with your gut." Powell's advice is don't take action if you have only enough information to
give you less than a 40 percent chance of being right, but don't wait until you have enough facts to be
100 percent sure, because by then it is almost always too late. His instinct is right: today, excessive
delays in the name of information-gathering breeds "analysis paralysis." Procrastination in the name
of reducing risk actually increases risk.

Lesson 16

''The commander in the field is always right and the rear echelon is wrong, unless proved otherwise."
Too often, the reverse defines corporate culture. This is one of the main reasons why leaders like Ken
Iverson of Nucor Steel, Percy Barnevik of Asea Brown Boveri, and Richard Branson of Virgin have
kept their corporate staffs to a bare-bones minimum. (And I do mean minimum-how about fewer than
100 central corporate staffers for global $30 billion-plus ABB?Or around 25 and 3 for multi-billion
Nucor and Virgin, respectively?) Shift the power and the financial accountability to the folks who are
bringing in the beans, not the ones who are counting or analyzing them.

Lesson 17

"Have fun in your command. Don't always run at a breakneck pace. Take leave when you've earned it.
Spend time with your families." Corollary: "Surround yourself with people who take their work
seriously, but not themselves, those who work hard and play hard." Herb Kelleher of Southwest
Airlines and Anita Roddick of The Body Shop would agree: Seek people who have some balance in
their lives, who are fun to hang out with, who like to laugh (at themselves, too) and who have some
non-job priorities which they approach with the same passion that they do their work. Spare me the
grim workaholic or the pompous pretentious "professional;" I'll help them find jobs with my
competitor.

Lesson 18

"Command is lonely." Harry Truman was right. Whether you're a CEO or the temporary head of a
project team, the buck stops here. You can encourage participative management and bottom-up
employee involvement but ultimately, the essence of leadership is the willingness to make the tough,
unambiguous choices that will have an impact on the fate of the organization. I've seen too many nonleaders flinch from this responsibility. Even as you create an informal, open, collaborative corporate
culture, prepare to be lonely.

Sunday, May 16, 2010

Integrated Marketing Communication - an overview


Integrated Marketing Communication is a term used to describe the holistic approach to marketing communication. It ensures that all forms of communications and messages are carefully linked together. 
Communication tools work better when they work in harmony rather than in isolation. Their sum is greater than their parts - provided they speak consistently with one voice all the time, everytime.
This is enhanced when integration goes beyond just the basic communications tools. There are other levels of integration such as Horizontal, Vertical, Internal, External and Data integration.
Integrated Marketing Communication delivers many benefits. It can create competitive advantage, augment sales and profits, while saving money, time and stress.
IMC wraps communications around customers and helps them move through the various stages of the buying process. The organisation simultaneously consolidates its image, develops a dialogue and nurtures its relationship with its customers.